In communication timing is almost everything

The message is good, but the timing is oh so bad -- Why is timing so important?

When you talk to someone, assuming you're like most people, you tend to focus on what you want to say. There's some sense in this since you want to be clear and understandable. It is possible to phrase your message and meaning perfectly, yet have it rejected, ignored or otherwise demeaned.

In many ways, timing IS everything in communication. For example, if you have a great idea you want to pitch to the boss, you may get a terrible reception one day, but if you chose another day, you might get a great reception. Clearly, people are more receptive at some times compared to other times.

We tend to forget this. And then get upset when we don't get the reactions we want. Luckily improving timing in communication isn't difficult. It involves some conscious thought and curbing impulsiveness or even curbing your enthusiasm.

Consider the other person -- state of mind, emotions, time schedule to assess whether it's a good time to talk about a particular subject. Do this beforehand. During conversations, if you get unexpected negative reactions, think about whether it's that the other person is simply not ready to hear what you have to say. Maybe it's best to continue at another time.

Timing is particularly important with emotional or tough conversations. It's always good to ask -- "I'd like to talk to you about [topic]. Is it a good time now?"