Leading Questions -- Problematic Communication

What is a "leading question?"

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A leading question is a specific kind of question that attempts to "lead" or manipulate the other person into answering the question "the way the asker wants". Its intent is not to understand, but to manipulate.

Many of us use leading questions without being conscious of either our intent, or how such use appears to the other person. For example, "You don't really believe that..." is a leading question that clearly is designed to make a statement of opinion, rather than to engage in true inquiry.

Leading questions are probably never advisable, since they are certain to create defensive, anger, and a feeling that you are trying to manipulate the other person.

If you want to know, ask. If you want to make a statement, or put forth an opinion, don't use a question to try to disguise what you are doing.